Tag: friends

Discuss mental health

Discuss mental health

I’ve not told everyone I know this, but I suffer from panic attacks. I’ve experienced them for several years now, and wonder if I’ve actually had them on and off throughout my life. The older I become, the more essential I believe it is to […]

Friendships change

Friendships change

By the age of 30, no doubt you’ll have experienced disagreements with friends. You’ll more than likely have lost contact with several, either passively or aggressively. It’s something which used to upset me deeply. Now I’ve realised it’s natural. Friendships change. Back and forth We […]

Be open to everyone

Be open to everyone

It’s very easy for us to be prejudiced. As we get older and experience more, the tendency can be to grow cynical and more insular. Those we already have around us can become the walls of a fortress. The unknown is then kept at bay. This is a real shame, as we aren’t only locking out new friendships, but new opportunities too. We need to aim to be open to everyone.

My friends often call me a “snob”. I’ll admit, sometimes I am. I’m the first to declare a lack of surprise when someone from a certain location does something underhanded or malicious.

King Kevin

On the flip side, I’ve also been pleasantly surprised on many more occasions.

For years “the South” seemed like a completely alien place. I envisioned “its people” as arrogant, spoilt and out-of-touch with “northern realities”. If I were ever to encounter someone from south of Derby, I’d be sure to dislike them.

Be open to everyoneCharl Kevin Halloween

Well, what a complete shocker! I met people at university from further south and north who were lovely. They taught me things about myself as much as about others.

I made great friends with students from the south coast while I was in France who at first, hearing their accents, I was wary of. I had some of the best times of my year abroad with them. Even though the uni was on strike and we had no money and very little to do, we talked and talked and talked. We watched programmes and films we mutually enjoyed. We went on trips. Times I’ll never forget.

Since then I’ve made other acquaintances that have opened my eyes and broadened my horizons. During my time with Matt, I’ve had the honour of meeting a large selection of his friends. They come from all over, even Italy. They’re brilliant people, no matter the accent. They’ve welcomed me with open arms and invited me to so many events. Sam and Fabio’s wedding week was just one of them.

Sam Fabio and bridesmaids

Back in April, Matthew and Emma graciously asked me to accompany Matt to their wedding. I was made to feel a part of another family in both of these momentous milestones.

Matthew Emma wedding day Ruth

Other occasions are coming along too. A house party in the Pennines. A birthday party in Manchester. A Christmas meal in Stockton Heath. Another wedding in September 2018. I can’t wait. The most poignant thing is that, without the goal to be open to everyone, these things wouldn’t be happening.

Sharon

Otters, owls and opportunities

Otters, owls and opportunities

What are your views on Fate? I’m quite a strong believer in the idea that opportunities are laid at your feet, though it’s up to us as individuals to step out on each path or not.     Why do I say this? Well, the […]

Taking it easy around Tideswell

Taking it easy around Tideswell

Do you find that every now and then you just need a totally chilled weekend? That’s what I was in need of this time, and that is what I got. Not boring or empty, but relaxed and satisfying. I’ve been chock full of cold since […]